I don't care about what they say

                                                                                    - MARIE T. RUSSELL

How many times have you been hurt by what someone said about you? How many times have you doubted your self-worth because someone criticised you, either to your face or behind your back? Why do we react with such self-doubt or indignation when someone criticises us, or says negative things about us?

I find that our reaction reflects our negative and limiting beliefs about ourselves. If someone said something bad about you and you knew completely within every cell of your body that it was untrue, it would not bother you. You would simply shrug it off and it would roll off of you like water on a duck's back.

The reason criticism upsets us is that we also, somehow, somewhere, deep within us believe it to be true — or at least we wonder if it might be true.

Once you have your list of guilt’s, big and small, ask yourself and write down what belief you have formed from each one. You may be surprised at the results. Then really reflect and meditate on these lists. Dig deep, and you'll find those belittling beliefs and attitudes then you can pull out the weeds. You deserve to have a Garden of Eden within yourself and around you, not the weeds of judgment, disharmony, and self-condemnation. Love yourself and pull out the weeds, otherwise they may pop up at the most unexpected times and sabotage the most beautiful situations.

People often wonder why relationships start out so harmoniously and lovingly and then seem to sour as time goes by. A very simple explanation is that any relationship starts out with a clean slate. Then, as two people spend time with each other, each starts to become aware, consciously or subconsciously, of the others weak points and negative beliefs. So, here again, the key is to dig up the limiting beliefs and eradicate them.

They are poisonous and can poison relationships, job situations, and life itself. There is always a solution.

We need to take matters in our own hands, and only accept and nurture those beliefs that support our perfect health and happiness.

Types Of Fears

Fear comes daily and often in our lives in the form of stress, worry, anxiety and in a variety of other wasteful and negative forms. Let us look at some of the types of fear human beings suffer from:

* The unknown - for example, death or a new situation.

* Loneliness - sometimes people fear loneliness to the extent that they cannot bear their own company, preferring to lose themselves in superficial (artificial) relationships and activities.

* The future - as the problems of the world increase, whether political, economic, environmental or social, this creates, or adds to, personal and collective fear of the future.

* Illness - sometimes because of fear of disease, people make their sickness worse than it is, or live in fear of inflicting (getting) something horrible.

* Other people - usually this is the greatest fear of all: fear of others' anger, rejection, judgement and violence.

* Failure - some people avoid doing something, or choose not to act, because their fear of failure weakens initiative and confidence.

* Authority - this can be fear of a parent, of a boss, even of God. Because authority has often been misused, in order to control and suppress people, it is a normal result that fear, in the form of suspicion and mistrust, has become such a negative force, both personally and collectively, in society.

There are many reasons for these types of fear, but the main ones include:

* Past experiences, which brought disappointment, insecurity, or wariness (caution).

* Lack of faith in one's self and in others.

* The need for approval, to belong, or to be accepted.

* The habit of seeing things negatively.

HAPPY DIWALI

       

       

Thought Of The Day

On the Seashore

On the seashore of endless worlds children meet.

The infinite sky is motionless overhead and the restless water is boisterous. On the seashore of endless worlds the children meet with shouts and dances.

They build their houses with sand, and they play with empty shells. With withered leaves they weave their boats and smilingly float them on the vast deep. Children have their play on the seashore of worlds.

They know not how to swim, they know not how to cast nets. Pearl-fishers dive for pearls, merchants sail in their ships, while children gather pebbles and scatter them again. They seek not for hidden treasures, they know not how to cast nets.

The sea surges up with laughter, and pale gleams the smile of the sea-beach. Death-dealing waves sing meaningless ballads to the children, even like a mother while rocking her baby's cradle. The sea plays with children, and pale gleams the smile of the sea-beach.

On the seashore of endless worlds children meet. Tempest roams in the pathless sky, ships are wrecked in the trackless water, death is abroad and children play. On the seashore of endless worlds is the great meeting of children.

                                                                    - BY RABINDRANATH TAGORE