I don't care about what they say

                                                                                    - MARIE T. RUSSELL

How many times have you been hurt by what someone said about you? How many times have you doubted your self-worth because someone criticised you, either to your face or behind your back? Why do we react with such self-doubt or indignation when someone criticises us, or says negative things about us?

I find that our reaction reflects our negative and limiting beliefs about ourselves. If someone said something bad about you and you knew completely within every cell of your body that it was untrue, it would not bother you. You would simply shrug it off and it would roll off of you like water on a duck's back.

The reason criticism upsets us is that we also, somehow, somewhere, deep within us believe it to be true — or at least we wonder if it might be true.

Once you have your list of guilt’s, big and small, ask yourself and write down what belief you have formed from each one. You may be surprised at the results. Then really reflect and meditate on these lists. Dig deep, and you'll find those belittling beliefs and attitudes then you can pull out the weeds. You deserve to have a Garden of Eden within yourself and around you, not the weeds of judgment, disharmony, and self-condemnation. Love yourself and pull out the weeds, otherwise they may pop up at the most unexpected times and sabotage the most beautiful situations.

People often wonder why relationships start out so harmoniously and lovingly and then seem to sour as time goes by. A very simple explanation is that any relationship starts out with a clean slate. Then, as two people spend time with each other, each starts to become aware, consciously or subconsciously, of the others weak points and negative beliefs. So, here again, the key is to dig up the limiting beliefs and eradicate them.

They are poisonous and can poison relationships, job situations, and life itself. There is always a solution.

We need to take matters in our own hands, and only accept and nurture those beliefs that support our perfect health and happiness.