You are good for others till you expect nothing from them…! You are too good to them till you fulfill their expectations! This is hard-core truth of life.
When one wants to see negative in other person, one can see is only mistakes, faults, drawbacks, weakness, immaterial of the other side.
Relationship do not change, it is the approach of people in the relationship that changes. From focusing to togetherness, when they start focusing on individuality, i.e. from US to I / ME, everything goes wrong.
If one is wrongly presenting / understanding a thing, & if it matters to other, the other could handle it in different way, rather than to put allegations on the presentation / understanding.
Apology doesn’t mean that one is correct & the other is wrong. It only means that one values the relation more than one’s EGO.
Many acts/words are due to lack of trust / transparency, late response, past experience, absence/lack of communication & Attitude is the convenient word with us in our dictionary.
Unknowing one uses the word ‘Attitude’ of other, being ignorant, that few factors leading to that person’s attitude may be linked to oneself.
Unknowing one uses the word ‘Attitude’ of other, being ignorant, that few factors leading to that person’s attitude may be linked to oneself.
Nothing can work / get spoiled without contribution from both sides. No single person can be responsible for anything to work / get spoiled between two people. Never hold any one solely responsible for any adversity in relation because no single raindrop is ever alone responsible for any flood.
Relationships are like glass. Sometimes, it is better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.
Many times, one becomes opportunist to grasp the opposite person’s words / action in the manner one wants to avoid or get something happened. Such persons know the art of trapping you in your own words & put the blame on you. Communicate with full senses in such counter parts of your relations.
NO & YES are the words which need a long thought. Most of the troubles in relation are due to saying ‘yes’ too soon or ‘no’ too late.
Many times, the opposite person does not reply in an argument or upon any allegation that does not mean that the other person is wrong always. The other person may hold the approach of not increasing the arguments / allegations to any extreme. Backing out of quarrel may mean that the other person doesn’t want to slow down the relation.
The relationship has to die when the accounting starts of what one has done for the other. Relationship is not a business to put in Profit & Loss Account.
Losing/winning is between rivals. Are 2 peoples in relation in war with each other?
The person who can see the other related person crying (except for the condition of any death / marriage) & stand away, is the one with a very hard heart.
Clearing Misunderstandings SAVES Relationship and blaming for Misunderstanding SPOILS Relationship.
Always take extra care of 3 things in your life... Trust, Promise, and Relationships because they don't make a noise when they break and they are hard to put back.
Finally ……. Truth of Life-
- "We make them cry who really care for us, we cry for them who just show that they care for us and we care for them who really will never cry for us."
- Life is not about finding the right person, but creating the right relationship, it’s not how we ‘care’ in the beginning, but how much we ‘care’ till ending.
- Life is too short. So, follow some rules: Forgive quickly, believe slowly, love truly, laugh loudly & never avoid a person in any true relation…..
- Great relationship is not necessarily about finding similarities...In fact it is more about Respecting differences!
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